my b/f has anxiety, i try to deal with the days were he just doesnt feel like going anywhere or doing anything…the days he doesn’t “feel good” and is grumpy i try not to argue with him..but i really want to know what its like for people with it. Please describe how some of you feel, so maybe i can understand better what he is going through on these days???
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I know it must be hard for you as my husband has a hard time dealing with me sometimes. It’s one of those things that’s hard to understand even when you have the disorder yourself. I have had anxiety attacks and such since I was a very young girl. I’m going to try to explain this the best way I know how from personal experiences.
Basically, at least from my experience, my anxiety comes from thoughts and fears. I can be in a car and all the sudden I will have this overwelming fear that I am going to get in a car wreck, that a drunk driver could be out and hit me, that I could run over somebody if they run out in the street or something like that… something a normal person might not worry about or if they did, it would just be a passing thought. But for me, it stays on my mind and brings on this great fear that weighs on my mind.
I have irrational fears, like when I go in a gas station, I fear that somebody might come in and rob the store and shoot us all, or if I am out by myself, that somebody might kidnap and/or rape me. When I was little, I used to have to pack a suitcase every night and put it by the door in case the house burned down. I have to check the stove several times because I’m afraid that I’ve left it on. It causes my mind to go so fast around these thoughts I can’t think of anything else. My stomach hurts, my blood pressure rises, and I often can’t breath and start crying, especially when I have bad ones.
I have a fear of being around a lot of people as well, because I don’t like being around a lot of people when this occurs and also because I fear people judge me. This is actually really hard for me to write out, but I feel like people need to be educated to understand what really goes on in the mind of somebody who has anxiety.
I have to have constant reassurance… if my husband gets quiet or gives me a certain look I’ll wonder if he’s mad at me. I don’t go out with my friends much anymore cause I just don’t like being out of the house.
Anxiety also has many physically effects on you. Like I said, I get where I can’t breath, I cry, my blood pressure rises… but aside from that I stay tired all the time. I never really want to do anything because I’m tired and because I don’t want to be out with people.
I don’t really know if this helped you at all, because I don’t know how your b/f’s anxiety is like, but this is how I feel. I would suggest you talk to him and ask him how he feels. I’m sure he would be willing to share these feelings with you so that you can understand what life is like for him.
by: cherrycoladreamer
on: 14th September 06
